Around this time last year, Seth and I announced to everyone we were pregnant. It was a very exciting time in our lives, because our prayers to be parents were finally answered. I remember there being a time when I wondered if we would ever get the chance to make that type of announcement.
I recently had an old friend reach out to me and open up about her bumpy pursuit to having a baby. She had a few questions and wanted to know what we did to get pregnant.
This isn’t the first person who has reached out to me for fertility support and advice and it reminded me that Seth and I were once there, not that long ago.
There was a time we were struggling to become parents and all I wanted was for someone to listen; someone to give me advice, hold my hand and let me know it was okay. Don’t get me wrong-my husband has always been there for me and has been my biggest supporter. I just needed to hear from other women who had walked down a similar path in life. There was something motherly and nurturing about connecting with other women who felt similar emotions, experienced similar heartache, and understood. It was also reassuring to talk to or read about women who had success having children, after struggling to conceive.
For some couples, it only takes one try and you’re pregnant. For others, it can take years. Our journey fell somewhere in between and it took us a little under two years. In the grand scheme of things, two years isn’t that long of a time, but when you are trying month after month with no success, two years feels like eternity.
When my friend reached out to me, it reminded me of where I once was and what I really needed at that time in my life. I needed support and wanted advice from other women who struggled to conceive or keep pregnancies.
This recent connection has inspired me to write about my fertility journey. I have this strong desire in my heart to help others who are struggling to become parents. I have glossed over our TTC (Trying to Conceive) story in some of my blog posts, but I haven’t really written out the full details of our experience.
When you are struggling to conceive, you have lots of questions. You want to know what is normal, what you can expect and what others have gone through. I think it’s only human to feel the need to connect and relate and know you are not alone.
I am going to break this up into a few blog posts, or what I like to call, a series (so official, I know). I will be writing about the specifics of our journey and how we got to where we are today, including fertility treatments and coping through our waiting season.
Note: I get that a lot of you reading my blog are nowhere near trying to be parents. Maybe you’ve been down this road 20 years ago or you never had kids. Maybe you’re just dating someone or single and not interested in having kids at this time. That’s okay! Perhaps you know someone who is trying to get pregnant or struggling from a recent miscarriage. If that’s the case, let them know about my blog and maybe I can offer some type of encouragement or support.
Other Note: You will find that I say “fertility” and not “infertility” when writing about our journey. I once read that saying “infertility” can have a negative effect on your outlook when trying to get pregnant. It’s almost like saying you are not fertile and never going to get pregnant, no matter what you do. I prefer to say “fertility”, because it is more positive and leaves room for hope.